You were well within your rights (boundaries) to not be a puppy sitter so that C could go on a trip with OG. That's an abuse of your 'friendship' for her to even be so inconsiderate as to ask.
As for the Futon, there's nothing wrong with your calling her to ask about picking it up. She knows you're expecting it and will think you're 'sulking' if you don't even ask about it.
As to you accounting, YES, if I were you I'd move my financial records elsewhere.
If you want to see the kids, then of course you should. Just be sure it's ONLY to have time with them because you love them and NOT a way to stay connected to C in any way.
Find your own counselor. Even though the counselor will NOT divulge any direct convo you have with her to C...it will leak out in her talks with C because the counselor has the benefit of knowing EXACTLY where you're coming from.
A friendship is a TWO WAY street. In what ways is C showing YOU how much of a friend she is?
As to whether or not it's over...it's over when YOU decide to step away for good for your OWN reasons not hers.
T2
PS. I wanted to add something here. You are legally Divorced. You seem like a terrific guy that's learned a great deal about yourself and relationships as a result of this process. So instead of sitting around waiting for C to get her act together, GO OUT meet someone, get laid (safe sex of course!), live a little. Life's to damn short.
