Here's the email I have in mind. It's a mix of DB and what my heart is screaming. I've no idea how it comes across, perhaps because I don't want to see it.
"You know I didn't want to separate and I don't want to divorce, but it's your choice and much like I couldn't keep you from leaving, I can't get in your way if you want to divorce.
I haven't done my research nor sought counsel, so I'm in no rush of starting the process. Also, there is a one-year delay in the law to give time to the couple to think and confirm its decision so I'd rather respect it.
May I ask why you want to start already?"
I go around telling everyone that you can't talk WAS into anything, yet I find myself in the same place, wishing W and I could talk.
Be careful when you use the "but"...
It says that you don't care what she wants, only to interject your personal agenda...
Be careful when you use the words "you" and "I"....
You will throw around a lot of guilt using them, especially if the WAS wants to hear it differently...
Think on that, and rewrite....
Find YOUR stance, and act from that place, instead of REacting from hers....
