Gogofo - no longer piecing 2nd BD - pt. 2

[gogofo]

I don't have my book near and cannot remember the particulars about MLC, but to give our situation a label this is what I think it is. She is working for her and on her and everything else takes second stage, family and kids included.

This contrasts sharply with how she is "normally" and why I am prepared to do all the work necessary to support her and love her and work through all of this.

She knows that her situation is because of choices she made, but also will not drop or change any of her commitments.

So I am trying to figure out where to go from here. I do not want to move out of the house and I do not want a divorce. I will not see her until late Sunday, so we have time apart.

Actions to take:
Fist and foremost do not pressure her! I will need to do big work on this as I need to learn patience and pacing.

Decide if I should move to the basement bedroom. I want to move for two reasons. The bedroom she is sleeping in is not as comfortable as the master. The basement bedroom is a second master and would work well for me. I want her to be comfortable and not feel pressured by me. I feel this could be an action that would relieve a lot of pressure on her by being able to physically be alone in her own room. I have an issue when sleeping that I physically touch and grab out when sleeping or in a near sleep state. I have even started and engaged in intercourse in this dream like state. This creates a "pressure" issue for her that is really hard for me to control or know that I do.

Should I move my things to the basement when she is out of town so she can have more space?

Should this be discussed with her before I move my things? This is me being scared or fearful of rocking the boat, it is me wondering if I should get her blessing before giving her her bedroom back. Why do I think I need her blessing and why am I such a pansy when I comes to things like this. I feel I should just do what I feel is right and relocate to the basement.

I need outside opinions on this.