a week ago from this afternoon was my last contact w/ C. Had time to reflect on several things.
1. right after the bomb on Aug 9, 03 she said she did not think we would ever get back together but that I was a good man and that she wanted to remain friends. (unknown to me at this time she had already started a EA and maybe even a PA)
2. after DBing for a month before the D in oct 14, 03 she said that as for the D she felt she was going to go ahead but did reserve the right to change her mind but that we could keep dating.
3. within a month of the D we ML and seemed to start reconnecting.
4. around the end of Nov and first of Dec she commented about one of her clients that had divorced then later remarried and that they were now happier than ever. and also stated that if we did get back together she did not see before a year.
4. ML backed down some in Jan and on Feb 1 she dropped bomb 2 of telling me of OG and then retreating complety.
5. last Sunday when I went over to pick up the camper and move it to a storage lot she asked me if I would watch puppy when she went away for weekend w/ og. I kinda got very angry and blew it some. At that time she did offer to let me have the puppy. I told her that puppy was a anniversary gift to her. Before I left though she said that she had hoped that us being friends would work as we always had fun together. As I left she gave me a really nice hug and a little kiss.
6. no contact since then
7. I had ordered a futon mattress and it was to be delivered to her house with her futon on Monday. I am sure that if I do not contact her she will have to contact me to ask how I am going to get the mattress.
8. She still does my checks (altho she said that in reality her bookkeeper does them but the bookkeeper uses C's office computer and all my corporate accounting records are in C's office) Picking up checks can be a way to maintain some contact
9. She said it would be a good idea for me to continue seeing the grandkids and niece and nephew. Her Counselor said the same thing. And both parents are ok with that.
10. for now I am going to continue seeing her Counselor on a monthly basis.
11. When we last spoke last Sunday she said that we should have no contact for a few days then get together and talk about us.
OK - questions
1. when we do talk again, do I agree to see her and do things with her from time to time and try to maintain the "having fun" relationship. (if I do then she would have to be considerate of my feelings and not intentionally say things that hurt me)
2. do I continue to try to see the Kids, even though they are not mine?
3. Do I continue to try to see the puppy from time to time?
4. do I continue to see her counselor?
5. do I break off all contact move my payroll to somewhere else so she can really miss me?
6. do I block her from seeing me on IM or leave that "door" open just a little by letting her see my activity from day to day?
