Im alittle confused about this whole Divorce Busting anyway . I mean alot if not all posts to me seem to be directing blame onto the LBS . I simply cant accept that .If she hadnt have had the affair we would still be together and we could have exhausted all avenues before seperating .
Dawgy, I think you're misinterpreting it. The point that so many are trying to get across to you is that you can only change YOU. I understand your feelings of hurt and anger- we've all been there. But eventually I got to a point where I realized that W is her own person. She makes her own decisions. She has to live with those decisions and it's not my 'job' to tell her that the decision was right or wrong. I'm very similar to you in that I like to be in control. It's been difficult for me to let W go and live her own life, make her own choices. All I can do is continue to work on myself and become a better person. I promise that if you keep the focus on yourself and letting go of W's decision making, eventually it gets easier.
Originally Posted By: dawgy
But oh no , she done it the evil way and i cant get past that . Sorry I believe Ive tried . For over a year . Im about me and my sons now . She will have to face the music . I pity her . I gave her a chance to save our family but she just played on my fear . Im done . Dawgy
Not your 'job' to judge her and her actions, but if you've decided you can't get past them, go ahead and file for D. But make sure that's really what you want and that you're not just speaking from a place of anger.
