Heather, It's good to see that you found your "groove" and finally spoke up for yourself at work. You gained more respect by doing this than sitting there taking the bs from the perfectionist, etc. Now, your publisher is aware of what you've been dealing with and also want you want to learn and how to move forward.
I'm glad you finally put your foot down about D20. I'm sorry she opted to leave, but to be perfectly honest w/you, when she was away at school last year, you and your D12 seemed to settle down and enjoy life w/o a whole lot of drama. Moving out and being on her own may be the best thing for her. She needs to learn how to stand on her own two feet w/o someone being there to fix all of her problems. Heather, don't ever think she won't be back...she will if things don't go well for her and she needs her mom to fix things once again. I know you love her to death, but this time, she will need to fix whatever jams she gets into on her own. She's an adult now and she will make mistakes, but that's how she will learn what to do and not do in the future. It's okay to listen and if she asks for advice, give it to her, but don't clean up her messes for her.
I'm glad to read that you have someone coming in to be w/your D12. I think this may be a win-win for you and your daughter.
From what you've posted, it sounds like things are starting to settle down and you are finally planting your feet on solid ground.
