I'm also confused by this secret men's business to which you refer.
People believe what they want to believe and make decisions based on that. When those beliefs are challenged it can infuriate them and make them read all kinds of things into it. You Gg are probably really confounding a whole bunch of people.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
