Zelda and Bob, There is no easy fix to getting your spouse back.
You need to find yourself. Become the happiest version of yourself in a dark time. Identify the things/behaviors you did to push your spouse away, and make a conscious effort into understanding why you did them and to not act that way any longer. Become a compassionate caring person. Regardless of what you did or what was done to you. The past is the past, time to learn from it and move forward.
This is my 2 cents.
25 is much better at this than me.
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015