Claire's dozen (#12)

[KGirl]

You poked your head in the cave?? Now my curiosity is piqued..

[Maybell]

Didn't everyone? I mean, he practically waved a giant banner saying "Read Me."

I don't get it either, Claire. It doesn't sound like a guy I'd like to be married to. And most of the guys I've read around here that I *would* like to know haven't made their presence known there yet. Sounds like a lot of chest-thumping to me.

[Maybell]

Well, some of the guys are being really kind and no different than anywhere else on this board, but JCred creeps me out. I can't trust a guy who walked out on his wife with ZERO notice, spent 20 years chasing women (including a married woman), and now claims he is married happily but no word on for how long, or why he's here now. Why would he spend so much time here under those circumstances?

Also, the stuff he said he and his friend did to make women laugh sounds like the sorts of things guys at the law firm I worked in my 20's did. Obvious, smarmy, and not intriguing at all. Make me laugh, yes. But let's make it a clever laugh. I want a reason to come back to you, and it's not going to be that you can spin a silly falsehood.

[gan]

So I'm not alone then! Just took a gamble and posted about this on my own thread.

[raliced]

Definitely not alone Ganb8te. Maybell- I saw the post that he wrote that was ultimately removed from your thread, and it was pretty bad.

[Maybell]

Thanks, raliced. It was definitely not helpful. I don't know how he could have meant me to take it that might have been.

Sorry for the hijack, Claire!!! Hope you're well!

[Ss06]

I am SO GLAD that others were irked by the man cave, too. I peeked in, read while my mouth was wide open, shrugged and turned off the iPad.

Metaphorically, that's a good example of me not doing what I've promised myself I'd be better about: respecting my perspective and standing up for it!!

It's annoying and silly, IMO but it taught me a lesson. I need to stop letting the wrong things go and start letting the right things go.

On a separate note. Claire, how are things??

[claire7]

Love this community so so much.

Thanks for checking in. Things here are still tough at the moment. FIL is very ill. I can imagine how scary and stressful it is for H and his brother. And, selfishly, it hurts to be such an outsider during this time.

[labug]

I missed some drama??? A post was removed from MB's thread??? Dayum!

I read the first few posts on the Man Cave. Let's just say, not my cup of tea. It's never a good sign when a man presupposes what women want (remember that goofy Mel Gibson movie?) when there are hundreds of women's threads they could read and get the real 411 on what women want.

Anyway, I've been around here for far too long, this stuff comes and goes and either crosses a line or dies a natural death. He did cover his bases by his over the top praise of MWD.

[labug]

One more thing, does everyone check post counts when someone starts posting here giving advice? I do. I also always look for threads they've created. If they haven't shared their story, I ask for it and if I don't get a response, I ignore them for the most part. IIRC, this is jcred's first thread created unless he was here under a different name.

Some people come here with a specific agenda based on who knows what but usually it's their unhappy back story.

Also people from other boards sometimes come here to set everyone straight about how weak DB is.

Yes, these are adults.