MLCer and EA w/ OW

[Jer2911]

I have exposed it to a few members of her family that I can trust, but have not told her that I've exposed it. They are also observing some of her behaviors in person and have called her on some of it -- like texting the OW during family dinners and family holiday gatherings!

Of course, she denies to them as well that there is anything going on or that there is anyone else.

At some point in the past several days they've also started talking on the phone with one another. I'm still not sure how they are doing this, because it's not showing up on the cell phone records -- maybe some app on their phones or maybe they are skyping... I don't know. Initially it was in the middle of the night, but this week it's started happening beginning around 9:00 p.m. She's on the phone right now, as I type this, with OW. I can walk down the hallway and here her talking to her from the living room downstairs. I can't hear everything, but have heard enough to know who she is talking with -- and this has been every single evening this week. She apparently is not afraid that I might walk downstairs late in the evening to get something from the kitchen. And if I did, she would probably still deny that they are anything but "just friends."

Ridiculous.

Early on I considered publicly outing her to family and friends, but I worry that doing so would just push her further away and possibly get her stuck in Replay... Not sure if that would happen or not and I'm curious what some of the veterans might say about that.

For now I am letting her do what she wants -- as long as there is no physical harm to me or the kids -- with the hope that this incredibly ridiculous escape fantasy A will come to a natural conclusion in time. That may or may not happen.

However, I have collected quite a bit of evidence to prove when this started and how they have expressed their love for one another. If I do ever need to provide proof of the A then I do have it. I just hope I never need it and that this all ends soon so my W can move forward into whatever stage of MLC she is headed into next.

We have the majority of our finances and investments separate and we are not legally married, so I'm not worried about that. I'm actually more concerned about the emotional impact this is having on the kids and will continue to have on them as this MLC continues and as we move closer towards separation.

I just continue to be amazed at the craziness of MLC.