Devastated Husband; Need Advice...Part 2

[Calibri]

What are you doing when she calls and tells you how stressed she is?

I can't help but wonder if she's looking for you to swoop in and fix it. Her life, your marriage. You. She compares herself and her journey to yours. Her self esteem (or lack there of) seems to be directly tied to you and your life.

I had something else that I wanted to post. I think it had to do with your last post. And I had a thought about your sitch the other day at work, but I'm trying to phrase it in my head so it doesn't come off as being a total [censored]. Hey, practice 180s where you can!

Homework for you (as if you don't have enough to do): why does something need to change? Is that's what's best for you? Or the situation? Think more on that.

I also think you're going to have to think hard about your current position. I know that you not be available due to deployment impacted W and your sitch. But, are you ok with continuing to provide the perks of M to her without getting the same? Just something to think about. I'm not encouraging anything, but I think you need to look at the bigger picture.