Strong EA after 2 years of marriage. Need advice.

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I really need hands on advice, so how does this look like:

I KNOW I HAVE TO
a) detach more
b) continue GAL
d) stop saying things that I say exactly the opposite way later on (might be a communication problem, since I am German, but she ALWAYS complained about it)
e) just shutting up more in general, less talking more action
f) stop controlling her
g) if I say something, follow through and be as clear as possible with what I say (very hard part on my side, always had problems to make myself very clear, I just think too much)
h) be positive at ALL TIMES (at least when she is around)
i) leave her alone with her thought for now, she has to process things herself too

Short term goals:
a) that she gets more curious about what I am doing and why I am in such a good state of mind
b) that she starts telling me about work again, she usually does all the time, she didn't in a few days
c) that she gains my trust back telling me things she wouldn't tell everyone
d) NO discussions about D or R or whatsoever for two weeks, and if so, only if SHE starts and no arguments, only positive thoughts, no convincing