Strong EA after 2 years of marriage. Need advice.

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Michelle has an excellent writing style and great perspective.
Although of course not all the things apply to my own marriage but I just finished the "Marriage Map" of Chapter 1 and I had to LAUGH!
Stage 1-3 were just like written like it was my own marriage.

Instant conclusion: If my W does not get to the understanding of the works of a marriage, how am I going to tell her? I JUST CAN'T - she needs to figure this out herself, while I can only be the "secret teacher" (by secret teacher I mean I can only act for myself and hope that it will somehow, one day get through and open her heart again)!