Hi Seattle - I guess there are major positives - she talkes with her Sis alot about things and she did talke about my Test problem and my desire to see neice and nephew. when we were eating she brought up me seeing specialist on my test problem and seemed concerned about that. The contact since the OM Bomb is way down from pre OM bomb but it is improving - I guess the lower level of contact is what is depressing. And She is VERY busy at work during the day which keeps her from IMing as much as before - But she is interviewing for a full time assistant which will help lower her stress level alot.
I do not talk about the OM with her - I don't want to personalize him. A few weeks ago she did say that she was going to continue dating. and wanted me to start doing more things with friends. (she did not say she wanted me to start dating though)
We have never gone to counseling together and she says that she is not ready for "together" counseling. but when she first stated she wanted to go to a counselor around the first of Jan, I suggested together counseling (she said not yet) and I suggested that we might use the same one and she said no problem. A few weeks ago when she said she was going to a Counselor I suggested that I did not like the one I was going to and asked if I could go to hers too and she said OK - I did not mention going to that counselor again. Last night she said she had talked with her Counselor and said it would be ok and gave me her schedule. I just IMed C again and let her know that I contacted her C and set up appointment for 3/9 @ 7pm and she replied "good" I told her that the C said that she might have a conflict of interest thought and C again said that she had no problem with using the Counselor. Maybe she is thinking that eventually we can do together counseling with her? I can only hope.
The original Bomb was dropped Aug 9, 03 - the D was filed first week of Sept. and D was final Oct 14 - in Ga the final order can be heard 30 days after service of complaint. And I agree that I think that she felt that she needed to get the D in order to move on.