Hi Dawgy - you're not alone on that front! Many of us have eated our fair share as you know. I understand your anger, and that your W has pushed things.

You may decide not to save your M - but this is about you - about learning from what has happened, dealing with your anger and taking the responsibility that is yours. There will be some - none of us are perfect spouses.

You just seem to want to push things onto your W. But think about shifting your focus onto things you can control - you. What sort of man do you want to be - with our without W. What kind of relationship do you want with your sons? Look for the joy in your life, apart from what your W is doing - and focus on that.

You can do this Dawgy! Can you write a post and list ten things you are thankful for today? That might be a good place to start?

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus