I'm right behind you on the D thing, most likely end of month it'll be final. My sitch parallels this:
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Today at least will remove the fixation on divorce. She has walked away from a lot today including a great husband. I have to just keep moving forward and onto next phase of dbing. I can now get on with things without the courts hanging over everything. Now I can finish the house without any interference while planning my future.
I will say I was sad and did get a bit choked up today.
Matt, I believe today was the same as pulling off a bandaid quickly exposing the scab. The scab is now exposed. We will have to wait and see if it heals. If you can hammer out an agreement, Matt, the court part is really a small thing. It will relieve you of a lot and maybe allow you to focus on the future and leave the past in the past.
It is a bittersweet thing, but in the end, there's no other way if they are so fixated on divorce as their key to finding...whatever it is they are looking for...
Like you, I get the house, the kids almost all the time, and the debt ...but I should be able to dig out of that within a couple years now that I have only my spending to deal with and control, lol.
Hang in there!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
...but I should be able to dig out of that within a couple years now that I have only my spending to deal with and control, lol.
