I'd say there are some MAJOR positives here. I guess it all depends on what perspecitive you are looking from.
From Feb (OG bomb)to Mar you have gotten her pretty comfortable around you and she seems to be spending a lot of time with you on her own initiative. She is making a lot of contact. The hugs, calls, IM, concern, etc seem pretty consistent and you are obviously on her mind a lot. Does she still see OM or do you not talk about it?
You said you ML last in Jan, have you guys always been doing this throught this S or D time? I would say that is a major one.
Kisses are just another step and I can see how you would be discouraged about that. Don't let your ego get too bruised that you are afraid to try again. It is tough to know when it is natural, but when it feels right you will know. I can hear how you would want her to just drop her silly defenses and let the love in, you won't repeat whatever she is afraid of. But she is still afraid nonetheless. You know the recipe for that, consistency.
Have you guys always gone to counseling together? Did she say why she wanted you to go with her? I would view that as another MAJOR positive.
It surprises me that her D papers could be filed in Oct and by the middle of the month it is final. That is so quick. Do you think that once the pressure of this whole decision was lifted and you were consistent in your attitude toward her that these were big reasons why she came closer to you? Prior to the D filing if I remember correctly she was pretty cold. And then once the pressure was lifted she all of a sudden warmed up?
