WAH - gone almost 1 year, still so hard.

[stacey9]

Thanks SP, I read your post several times before he came over.

It was all about him. He can't afford to keep paying mortgage while awaiting the separation agreement being drawn up. He has paid x amount of money over the last year and has nothing to show for it. I am so lucky the house will be mine after all of this.

I resisted the urge to scream at him that I have been the one paying all the bills and looking after the kids over the past year. And yes I will have the house, but at a huge cost. I tried to keep it light, I nodded in the right places and did not agree to do anything but think about things.

Just as he was leaving he mentioned cancelling the mortgage payments with the bank. I think he is just trying to frighten me. He wants me to just sign the agreement without digging deeper and getting everything I am fully entitled to.

He could hardly even look at me throughout this. I spoke about a couple of things going on in the house that would normally have interested him, but he couldn't care less. This all seems to be about him getting money from me to help finance his fun new life. He also tried to get me to feel sorry for him - poor, poor him having to start again from scratch and try and buy a home of his own. But it was him who said 3 times during the conversation that he knows it was his choice to leave.

I'm proud of myself for not arguing with him. It's all so unfair and it is all his own fault. But I did not say this. I was calm and collected as I hoped I would be.

Thanks Toots for your GAL suggestions!

And suckerpunch you are right, I do need to get out of my comfort zone.....I will get back to you on this! Thanks again for all your help.