Busting this Divorce - 90 Days NC #6

[HPoirot]

Hello Drew. Yes I see your point. I stress my OW is in a good place in her M now she says and I am not trying to ruin anyone else's life. That and she's right now she really helps we with her WAW knowledge. We acknowledged what you mentioned and I'm not going to go there. Yes it still feels wonderful to hear from her... all this goes away for a little while.

Like Sandi says I'm looking for that place where I'm actually finally really DBing while finding some peace.

I know what the life I want is without W or anyone else. I can even see how I look and act and dress and GAL. I can see where me and S12 live. I can see how W or a new beautiful woman would like my life.

It's just interacting with W in the meantime. W and I have serious financial and child concerns for years to come. I see her tension whenever I see her and her need to recover with S12. Even so, my values are that I can't be W's buddy while she's in an A and disappointing our son. I'm understand being nice and seeing her as a co-worker is not giving her anything. Listening as a lover is not being a doormat.

It's hard though the way she's been acting. The screaming and lying and acting like nothing is wrong and the asking for breaks.

She just sent me an email talking again about since I make more and live cheaper that I should pay more tuition b/c she needs to buy a car and get a place to live. Her funds are limited she says (after spending $250 on sneakers for S12 and going to a concert and a hotel stay in the mountains with S12). Again she asks to talk.

She keeps pushing... like the crying about Christmas and the condo before. I don't want to keep trying to read her. Like Sandi says... I just want one standard way of operating with her that works towards any possible R until I'm detached or she is warmer.

So I'm answering texts sooner as now she has shut down emotional texting.

I'm answering the phone if she has S12.

I'm not agreeing to meet with her to talk.

I'm answering her emails when I can.

No R talks.

No family time.



I think that's it. The warmth I'll still see about. Even if she doesn't deserve it I know it benefits all of us for me to do it. I'm working on it... really hard.