Strong EA after 2 years of marriage. Need advice.

[Mozza]

You're making a lot of beginner's mistakes. You talk too much, you try to control her, you want her to face the consequences, you think you can "convince her", you focus on the OM, etc. Read the first chapters of DR, then read the rest of the book ASAP. Take it seriously: read it with pen and paper and follow the exercises. This is where I gathered the knowledge and strength to do this. If you don't, ask yourself if you're really suffering this much and are willing to put in the effort to DB.

We always say that no single exchange will ruin all your chances, but it's like a sports game: the mistakes add up and then the game is over. Don't become one of those who does the opposite of DB and then come here to confess, hoping it somewhat cancels out. It doesn't. Learn to DB properly.

When you discuss, when you argue with WAW, you give her power. You don't gain it. Imagine someone comes to tell you: "If you do X, I'll send my brother to beat you up." You do X. Are you more afraid if he says "Fine" and turns away, or if he starts arguing with you that you should really have not done X, that it was wrong, etc.?

It's nice that you're making plans to go back to college, but can you make plans to go out tonight for now? Start describing your actions to GAL, become a little mysterious, detach, etc.