You need to get the book DR and read it pronto. It will make so much sense once you do.
The first chapters are on this forum. If I knew how to create a link I would. Find this and read it.
Sitting on the couch waiting for the post man Old fashioned Copy-paste from the browser works too!
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15