She does not have to face consequences to anything. She's deep in a fog and can easily justify her actions to anyone. It is not about punishing her or even changing her. It is about becoming a man only a fool could leave and making you a better person. It is her journey and the more you try to influence it, the further she will run away.

The only thing you can control is yourself. Believe me, this was a HUGE issue for me. Took me a long time to learn that one.

If she continues the A the only thing you can really do is set boundaries for yourself. Learn how to set boundaries and practice it. It is a difficult skill to master. research it and learn from others mistakes.

Oh, and don't EVER move out. I went through in house seperation for 13 long weeks. If she wants to S, make her be the one to leave. Every single poster on this site will back me up on that one.
Good luck complex. Read peoples stories on hear and learn from them.



Last edited by bdub; 01/14/15 05:15 PM.
M42 W40
T17
M15
S13 S11
BD 7-14
A discovered 7-14
WAW moved out 10-3-14
D final 2-23-15