Strong EA after 2 years of marriage. Need advice.

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Ok I can't get to old 'talking' habits.

So basically I killed the secret mojo of her EA by finding out. Told her she crossed the line and I won't accept a third person involved in our marriage/problems.
What if she just doesn't stop tho. She told me it got her back to reality and I think she has to feel some consequences now. Maybe I should move out. She should also inform her family. I feel like by just moving on I'm feeding her EA again because she thinks it's ok then. That's how she initially brought EA to the next step, after we decided together that we separate for real.

I probably just have to completely get over myself first. But she HAS to start facing some consequences here to start seeing what she's actually doing, or not?