Strong EA after 2 years of marriage. Need advice.

[Mozza]

I don't know what to say.
I do not accept to do any D or whatsoever talking
And she has to be truthful about it and stop lying.
HOW do I tell her that without making an ultimatum to her??
she doesn't do D talk, whatsoever.

This, right there, is your immediate problem. You want to talk. But you can't talk your way out of something your actions got you into.

You can't control her with words.

You can't control her at all, but especially not with words. This is the one thing you need to understand at the moment. You will only speak with your actions. Have you read what Starsky309 and Train say? Be mysterious, go out, get a life, etc.

The way I see it, you have to send her the signal that you're confident she's making a big mistake and that your life is and will be more interesting anyway. This will make her curious. "Wait a second, why is it that he's not pursuing? I thought I was going for the more interesting option? What does he know that I don't?"

Also, I already told you that she won't be truthful. It's not between the two of you anymore. I'm sure it's a big shock to absorb. I remember sobbing and shaking when I realized that and my own W had to comfort me... Once you stop expecting the truth from her, you'll take a big step forward. Asking for something you won't get is making you look weak.

Another thing: stop hoping for fairness. Yes, she'll come out on top in the short term. You should see my WAW: new job (that I help her get), new younger hotter boyfriend, hot sex I'm sure, free of kids for grow-up activities half the time, no more old R, etc. But the rules of physics still apply to them. OM also has dirty socks, bad breath, boring Wednesdays, etc. It's life that will teach your WAW a lesson. If YOU teach your WAW a lesson, then you're the mean one. If life teaches her the lessons, then she'll know she was wrong. Bite your lips and be patient while life does the rest of the job.