Lou, I'm very sorry to read about what has happened, but as NLW, pointed out, this is generally how the crisis unfolds. It's going to take many months, even years for things to get sorted out in his mind and heart. He allowed the ow to move in and now he's going to have to tolerate her children. That may get old fast and the arguments will begin...but...time will tell on that little situation.
Sometimes when they are around each other day end and day out, the fantasy of that new life together will grow boring and the light of day will expose all of the warts and imperfections of the two of them. Maybe this is a good thing so that all of this can finally play out and allow reality to set in. The man has lost the most wonderful woman, a relationship that was good and eventually the respect of his sons and for what? Something new? Doesn't make sense, but the crisis and what they do doesn't make sense...so with that being said, leave him to his mess and you continue to focus on you and the healing process. Okay?
Lou, you are going to be okay, just give yourself the time and space to heal.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
