Hey, Card, I saw your question to Ss about worrying about her daughter and I wanted to share a few things.
One of my best friends from high school is the child of parents who divorced when she was 2. She's been in a happy marriage with three kids for the last 15+ years. She has a GREAT relationship with her mom. She would have loved to have also had a great relationship with her dad, but he drifted away from her after the divorce and by the time she graduated from high school he didn't even come to the graduation. That upset her terribly. Her parents being apart, she was OK with.
Not to say I'm the model of mental health, but she had no more problems than me (and we were both goody-two-shoes). No more problems (and rather fewer) than our other best friend who lived with parents who were happily married.
It stinks to say it, but kids DO adjust. They may not like it, but if they are loved, valued, and nurtured, and they know it, the other stuff becomes the same kind of background noise as the other factors in their life. Just part of the status quo.
They also are sharp and have an interest in understanding their environment. It is not lost on my kids that their dad hardly ever calls them and that he's traveling for their birthdays. You worry about your D. Just be a great dad to her and she'll be OK. If you want some reassurance about that, get one of the many parenting books that addresses daughters or dads and daughters. She will be OK if you make that your goal.
You've come a long way in a short time. I hope you're proud of yourself. Enjoy the snowboarding (where is there snow??? I want to take my kids out) and stay away from the hamdogs.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
