no contact w/ C so far over weekend but then I expected that from someone that has retreated back into the cave. had time to think though.
Last weekend at the zoo I felt like old times - we had fun with each other and with the grandkids. I realized how much I really have miss the Grandkids. since they are on her side of the family it has been very seldom that I had a chance to see them. A while back I mentioned to C that I would miss them if we never got back together and she said "but you will always be their Granddy and Sis's kids' uncle" at the time I said that while that might be not seeing them on a regular basis would in effect take them away from me.
Later in talking w/ C I told her that I do agree with her that I will always be the Granddy and the uncle and would like to see them more. Maybe that is why she asked me to the zoo was to give me a chance to see them again. (but she did say in the phone call that night that she wanted to see me and to be with me)
It still seems that I am not seeing the Grandkids and the neice and nephew much and I was thinking that I need to take matters into my own hands and call her Son and her sis and tell them that I do love the kids and want to continue to be part of their lifes (the few times I do see them they run over to me saying "Uncle Bob" or "Granddaddy" and give me a big hug. I want to also tell them that I would like to do things with them on a weekend afternoon every so often even if C does not want to do anything with me.
I have been told by friends that that might be a good idea even if C might think I am trying to wiggle in through the back door.
Any Ideas. Remember I have alreaddy asked BIL to go bowling with me from time to time.
