It seems to me that when I responded to her with strength and resolve, she saw that I was willing to move on. When she realized that she might actually have to face a reality without me, it frightened her.
Am I getting warm?
Burning hot! It's all there in your post. When you fear losing her, you push her away. Look at her reaction when you cried in her arms. Then compare to her reaction when you started packing. We don't even need DB: it's clear as water.
You just need to gather the strength and resolve. You're getting there, according to your recent posts, but you can't bluff this. You'll likely have to go all the way, perhaps you'll have to move for real. But remember that you won't be leaving much behind if she's really unwilling to commit to your M.
What you're telling me, Mozza, I've intellectually understood for a long time. But I couldn't get past the damned fear and dread of losing her. The idea that she could go on, find another man, and be happy without me still hurts like hell. She's all I've known since 1993. But the difference is that I know now that I would do the very same thing if we D. (Well, except for the "other man" part, just to be clear....not that there's anything wrong with that! ) I know it was scarcity thinking that kept me fearful; that I couldn't find love or have a happy life if not for her. I'm getting past that, though.
And you're right. As sad as it would be, if she can't commit to our M, then there's no point in me holding on.
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Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
) I know it was scarcity thinking that kept me fearful; that I couldn't find love or have a happy life if not for her. I'm getting past that, though.
