OK, Claire, you've been chawing on this anger for a couple of weeks now. Time to move on? (I swear it gets easier once you do.)
There are two statements up there that start with "I'm angry that my H..." There is nothing you can do about those but forgive his incapacity. (Your mom agrees with me, you told me so.)
For the rest though, you can plan and then execute your mitigation strategy, starting RIGHT NOW. For each of those, drop the anger immediately and turn it into positive action.
