LITB, did you go to all the post program sessions?
Yes, with the exception of one, because of a scheduling conflict. They are equally as important as the weekend.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
"I truly believe that by changing my behavior, he will adjust his behavior bc I will no longer be making him miserable"
I would be cautious about this. You said that he has a temper. People who have a tendency towards anger will ALWAYS blame someone for how they feel rather than learning that the problem could be themselves. Don't assume all blame. He has just as much to work on as you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I am so nervous! Tomorrow evening the program starts. I am trying to go in with no expectations, and an open mind. It is hard to stay calm though, knowing I am about to go through a draining process. It is like the night before a big test, but you can't study!
Me:30 H:31 D1 T: 7 years M: 3.5 years BD: 12/2014 3 month S starts: 2/2015
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
"but right now I would rather be married than right. "
This has nothing to do with it. No one said that you had to be "right". He has to understand where his anger comes from or else you will always be at the brunt of it. I understand what happened in the past and you've seemed to be trying to correct it. That's very commendable. But his anger is not a result of your actions. He has control over that.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I don't really know what to tell you. He has always been a hot head, but has made considerable improvement in controlling it in the almost 7 years we've been together. it doesn't usually come out of nowhere, but I do have to be careful in what I do and say as not to provoke him. If he's been drinking it can be especially bad. But again, it is not that he is always angry. But if I say or do something that pushes him over the edge...it can get out of hand. Never physical of course.
Me:30 H:31 D1 T: 7 years M: 3.5 years BD: 12/2014 3 month S starts: 2/2015
