My H (LD, closer to ND) was the one who wanted counseling, so we've been going since Oct. He doesn't want to have sex, doesn't want to contribute financially but still thinks everything is great. He wants to hold hands on the couch, stay up until 2:00 and then go to bed. Unless, of course, he's playing hockey...there's a whole different routine when it's a night for that.
The counselor has asked him to work on 2 things: 1) Initiate 2-3 times a week and 2) Consistently contribute to our finances. He hasn't done either. Tonight, he once again said that he screwed up. She said that it wasn't possible to screw up when you've made no effort. She went on to say that what he is doing (or actually is not doing) is INTENTIONAL. It all boils down to the passive/agressive thing once again.
He's going in for a few sessions alone with the counselor to see if there's any way this is going to work. I just don't know at this point; I do have my doubts. He's made promises to me alone and, for the last 4 months, in front of our counselor. He hasn't followed through on a single one of those promises.
