HP, From my day 25 is one of the lucky one's that worked hard and made these effective changes that restored her marriage. She knows from experience the value in these behaviors because she has experienced the results of the work. As difficult as it was for her, she consciously made the decision to listen to those who spoke to her and to make changes that would lead her to what she wanted.
I can remember reading posts in which she was ready to lay a pipe across his head and then she would get feedback and head back in the right direction. The point is you have a very strong person giving you advice here so take advantage and learn from her.
Also, I can promise you that we are not telling you to watch these videos and movies just to kill time for you. There is information and guidance in them that will help ease all of this pain and give you some direction that will ease some of the stress that you are feeling.
