Good for you and, I know what you mean by saying ILU. Are you often the one or always the one to say ILU first and a lot? I ask, b/c I do that and have found that not saying it as a 180 makes me feel more frustrated, so I say it but a lot less often right now while I am still LBS
on another thread you said this
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if I ask the right questions, and validate creatively and offer examples that show what he is saying - he WILL elaborate, open up, and make quite a lot of sense.
Can you elaborate on what does work? I have a H who is similar in that I think he is a bad communicator, passive aggressive, I have to mind read him and generally I have no idea what he is saying when he does say something.
I am an ENTJ There is not much room for error in the world of the ENTJ. They dislike to see mistakes repeated, and have no patience with inefficiency. They may become quite harsh when their patience is tried in these respects, because they are not naturally tuned in to people's feelings, and more than likely don't believe that they should tailor their judgments in consideration for people's feelings. ENTJs, like many types, have difficulty seeing things from outside their own perspective. Unlike other types, ENTJs naturally have little patience with people who do not see things the same way as the ENTJ. The ENTJ needs to consciously work on recognizing the value of other people's opinions, as well as the value of being sensitive towards people's feelings. In the absence of this awareness, the ENTJ will be a forceful, intimidating and overbearing individual. This may be a real problem for the ENTJ, who may be deprived of important information and collaboration from others. In their personal world, it can make some ENTJs overbearing as spouses or parents.
