Talk about a catch-22. I don't see a way to move this. That is what is hitting me again.
I could see where her niceness leads - maybe she wants a way back or sees a way back. Let her take (or keep) the lead. Take my time - give her more time. I'm not convinced by her niceness right now (it feels good, but I'd prefer honesty).
or
I can proceed with disassembling everything because she is already gone and just trying to stay nice to hold the family together and keep her double life as long as possible.
I would prefer to know what her real intentions are, but asking is not advised and I would have to trust that answer.
Me-45 W-44 S21, S18, D15 T-27, M-21 BD Jan 2014 PA revealed March 2014 In-house separation - April 2015 I filed - Aug 2015 She moved out Oct 2015