Talk about a catch-22. I don't see a way to move this. That is what is hitting me again.

I could see where her niceness leads - maybe she wants a way back or sees a way back. Let her take (or keep) the lead. Take my time - give her more time. I'm not convinced by her niceness right now (it feels good, but I'd prefer honesty).

or

I can proceed with disassembling everything because she is already gone and just trying to stay nice to hold the family together and keep her double life as long as possible.

I would prefer to know what her real intentions are, but asking is not advised and I would have to trust that answer.


Me-45 W-44
S21, S18, D15
T-27, M-21
BD Jan 2014
PA revealed March 2014
In-house separation - April 2015
I filed - Aug 2015
She moved out Oct 2015