Strong EA after 2 years of marriage. Need advice.

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Starsky wise words. Hard to hear the truth because it's hard and I wish it was that easy just to quit my feelings.
Maybe I take the whole marriage thing too serious. It's just a formal paper after all. But I became a believer, I might actually have found to God through all this. And I was a big atheist.
Maybe she would be happier with the OM, who knows. But I cannot give up yet.
Maybe it's stupid to hang on...

But the big difference between a relationship and a marriage is this: responsibility.
You can hurt someone and opt out in a relationship. It's still going to be very hurtful. But the married person has to try until there is no option anymore. And in my case that means she told me when it was too late, she never seeked help, she just figured it out by herself, no perspective, me not involved. Not mature, not fair, not 'marriage'. So it never actually really existed probably.
That's what scares me ..