Strong EA after 2 years of marriage. Need advice.

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Thank you Starsky and Mozza. Best two replies I ever got here.
I'm very thankful for your help.

Starsky: I like the first part what you suggested to say. But about saying "leave OM come back to me and work on our marriage" the timing right now would be completely off. She would think I'm nuts. We agreed on separation and I told her I'm not going to be in her way. After all the mistakes I've done she just plainly thinks all I want is her back and I'd do everything to do so. I don't know how to get that out of her head. It'll take time and I guess actions should speak louder than words.
I do agree on setting the boundary of no D or whatsoever talking as long as OM is in the picture. It's betwen her and me. Right now she is just completely over it, burying herself in sense of guilt and that all is her mistake.

Another concern of mine that I can't wrap my mind around is that we are only married 2 years, no kids. So opting out seems easier than for some other ppl married 10+ years and children..or am I wrong?