Jim0987 #10 - getting ready for mk8

[Hoju]

Sounds like you are doing better, things will get easier once W leaves as hard as it will be.

One thing I've noticed in many of your posts are phases like this "I would just add it to the pile of things I don't like but am prepared to accept". This sounds to me like being needy and guilting. People want what they can't have, I have no clue why. It seems like you are trying really hard to continually let her know this isn't what you want and it's sounding like you're guilting her. Maybe try pumping the breaks on these comments? Let her wonder if you even are still interested and see if she sends any feelers.

I completely understand your post about being compared to someone else who has it "better" now that they've split. As hard as it is to ignore these comments as well I think you pretty much have to. WAS just say these things to help ease their own guilty consciences.

You're right there is way, way to much divorce in today's society. After going through I can understand why it is simply far to easy to get one. A few thousand bucks to a lawyer and boom done. Far easier then getting married in the first place which often takes about a year of planning.

Don't worry about what your IC says about R. Plenty of people decide to make things work after a separation or an affair, just keep your head and that PMA up.