Responding Vs Reacting

[Faith2b]

Yes. Will look into it.

[Faith2b]

Ladybug

I understand what u are saying. I'm just trying to do my best. I didn't want this divorce. Yesterday we did great he was so ininto me. He picked me up and carried me. We played. And yes their is another but we were planning 9n getting remarried. I can't handle all this. What else unless I just disappear.

[labug]

You can't control what he does.

Tough question, what does it say about him that he's involved in a R with someone and flirts with you? Do you want to be the potatoes on the side?

Slow down, you have lots of work to do.

[Faith2b]

Am I the other women??? And if so what should I do?? Tell me please because I just wanna be where I need to be even if it's not with him. But this is all not fair. I didn't ask for any of this. I gave someone what they wanted not what I wanted now I'm suppose to do what??? Im Trying my best.

[DaddyLongShanks]

You can't control what he does.

Tough question, what does it say about him that he's involved in a R with someone and flirts with you? Do you want to be the potatoes on the side?

Slow down, you have lots of work to do.

Maybe if he catches her, his W or long term GF will be the one on the side. They do that you know, keep the spouse or one who isn't going to leave as a long term plan B or C.

[Faith2b]

I feel that you think I'm in some fantasy land. Maybe I am please tell me exactly how to act when with him??? I will do it because all I want is a healtho relationship without him if he is going to put me in anything other than #1

[labug]

I don't know that you're in fantasy land, I pointed out the reality. From what you've written here, that is your reality. Perhaps you are in fantasyland

No one can tell you exactly what to do in any given situation. You have to rebuild you and become a the person you want to be. I don't think you know what/who that is at this point. Thus I said, you have a lot of work to do.

I'm curious, there's very little mention of your children-two of them are practically babies. What's going on with them?

[Faith2b]

Ok ladybug ur giving it to me and I do like it lol. Well this defiantly was a set back scenario. He called me and I told him I'm not comfortable and I want us to focus on the kids and better communication. He did not like this at al.

He will get the rest of the furniture and put it in storage.

As far as the kids I have planned my new place for them. I have started decorating their room. My son's room will also be complete by the weekend. I will be taking them some where special this weekend. I also have more plan's to use our gameboards. I work every week ND. I get off at 3 so I plan to get lots of qt in after work. Museums and anywhere else to escape the cold.

Long road. I know that my posts are crazy they are the extreme in me. I don't have many outlets on my current sitch. Please understand I am working on me. I am excoted to be the woman that will have it all. I have my work cut out and I see it's early in my sitch.


Any feed back is appreciated brutal or not.


I did ser him straight after crazy yesterday. I will not be hot potatoed.

Thanks again.

[Faith2b]

Last day of moving out of my marital home. The reality is coming to be real. No more living in this home. It's a fresh new start for me and kiddos. Bitter sweet

[DaddyLongShanks]

I feel that you think I'm in some fantasy land. Maybe I am please tell me exactly how to act when with him??? I will do it because all I want is a healtho relationship without him if he is going to put me in anything other than #1

This is how you gotta be. Kudos.