Ganb8te 4 - Putting on my giraffe ears

[labug]

I'm reading lots of good stuff around here today, I think it's because I need to hear/read it and take it in.

This by Zelda is so spot on (love the giraffe ears ref ).

I had a discussion yesterday with my IC about how we hear things. H said something to me on Sun that I was hurt by. WE were talking about our S22 who lives with us and I was trying to talk about how that was affecting us. H and I. My H said, "I think it affects you more than it affects me."

Sounds innocent enough, right? But my mind jumped to "He thinks I'm too emotional, He thinks he handles this better than I do, I'm not strong enough." I then withdrew and basically outed.

Needless to say, this is a repeating theme for me over the years, being not good enough. My H said none of those things but that's how my mind interpreted it.

My IC asked, "What if you are more emotional about it than he is? Is that a bad thing? This is your son, you love him, there is an emotional attachment." She's right (as usual). It didn't have to be a negative.

So we also have to be very aware of our stuff and how much we allow it to influence us in interpreting what we hear. Maybe we have to occasionally clean out those giraffe ears.