Strong EA after 2 years of marriage. Need advice.

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That's a good one.

She came back yesterday night and said sorry over and over again. I see the guilt in her eyes. But I feel like she won't stop the contact to OM. I wonder if it will change tho.

She assures me that all this is between me and her..but we all know better.

I'm close to a breakdown this morning and I don't know how to get the energy to continue with my life and show the strength I need to if I want to continue to DB.
I guess time will heal and get things a little clearer to me.

I still don't know how to set my own boundaries. I don't know yet what I can accept and what I can not. And I don't want to tell her and it sounding like an ultimatum.

She also basically told me if I tell her family or if I talk to the OM she will divorce me asap. I wonder about that. It is so immature what she's doing and obviously she's afraid to admit what she's done to her family. She will be judged. But at some point I feel like someone else like me needs to tell her that she messed it up and did it the wrong way.

Something I learned is how ever I act, she is mirroring me. If I'm mad, she's mad back, if I'm understandig she is more open. But I also feel like that if I act stable and understanding it's just comforting her to make her feel better about EA and D. But I guess that's a very important part about DBing.