OM is coming back next week. There's been no further discussion about her seeing him outside of work. Just to be safe, I have her social calendar already full for next week.
She has not contacted him, insofar as I can tell. Unfortunately he has contacted her; the content in and of itself was nothing disturbing, but it's obvious he doesn't understand the concept of NC. And she is not about to tell him to not contact her.
She never agreed to a formal transparency plan, but as I have access to all her communications anyway, and check regularly, I haven't pushed it. Every expectation I have communicated to her (transparency, what constitutes fidelity, etc.) applies to me as well. I've been very clear on that.
No, we're not in piecing. She's still very much in WAW mode. She admitted yesterday in MC that while she does not actively contact him, she'll look to see if he's logged in on the Facebook Messenger bar. If he is, she posts something, just to let him know she's still there. It's usually new family photos or something like that, but she does it to "communicate" with him in a way. The therapist was very clear that even these passive reminders of OM are keeping her emotions stirred up.
No, I am NOT sure. She's talking the talk, but not walking the walk. I'm still not at all convinced that she's not giving it 6 months so she can look good and say she "did all she can" as she serves me D papers. Her rhetoric is "I WANT to fall back in love with you, but I don't know If I can. But I'll give it my best shot." Not exactly reassuring. That's what makes me wonder if the fight is worth it or not.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
