You have a lot going on. I guess just ask yourself what you really want. You are going to have a lot of stress with the divorce and moving, do you want to add buying a house to that as well? Betsey's approach does make some sense...do all the highly stressful things at once and then you'll have time to breath when it's all done!
As far as what you want...do you want to own a home? If that is your goal and it makes sense financially I say go for it. Plus it sounds like it will keep your kids in the same schools to make the transition a little easier for them.
I would be careful as far as what you do financially, I know in my state everything (income and debt) is considered marital property until D is filed with the court.
I know it doesn't seem like it now, but I think it's great there is actually a waiting period to get divorced. Some states make it way to easy.
You're a smart, strong woman, you're path is not an easy one but I know you will make the best decisions for you and your kids! (())
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since