Jim0987 #10 - getting ready for mk8

[jim0987]

Thanks Mozza. I dont think this is far off how she felt and this morning when i engaged her on that basis she calmed right down then just started chatting with me.

Its good that i'm recognising this, just at the moment its about 10 minutes after. Then i'm in that difficult position of wanting to go back, apologise and correct. Sometimes its good to do this mostly its probably not. Mk8 Jim needs this to be in real time.

Anyway we chatted through a few things this morning and i've taken the approach that i will keep her fully informed as to what is happening with move stuff. So a few texts from me today -nothing back but i didnt expect it.

I'm not sure if this is right but its courteous and reduces unnecessary anxiety and stress. Plus i dont think i lose anything doing this - its certainly not pursuit, the only thing is if it looks weak.

we talked about some stuff that needs seperating and i repeated my view that its just stuff so i'm not worried. There was one thing that we both wanted but whether her tears were fake or not its clear it will upset her more than me so I said this and said she could have it. when she questioned it i said i would just add it to the pile of things that i dont like but am prepared to accept.

Not hugely relevant but my W told me that her PF's husband has filed for divorce on the grounds of adultery which she has accepted as (in her words) 'she has been having an openly acknowledged affair for 18 months' she then said that he has two women on the go now. I unenthusisatically said 'good for him' but that I'm concerned I get lumped in the same category as him and SIL XH when I'm not the same. Its a strange world we live in with way too much divorce and nowhere near enough effort to make things work.

Anyway so my situation is now that next tuesday while i'm out of the country my W will be moving out to her new house and new life. OM1 is back from holiday the same week she moves so it really will be a fresh new life for her.

Gives me a week to get organised and try and sort my emotional state ready for my new single life. But my IC has said i seem much calmer and more at peace with it all so i suppose thats good (unfortunately she still says any hope of reconcillation is futile)