You did screw up, but not in the communicating with the wife. You screwed up communicating with you son. Remember that you talk from the position of things you control...not from the position of things you don't control. While I agree your son needs some one on one....all you should have brought up is one on one time between you two (thing you control) and left the wife out of it. If your son then brought up your wife, then you mention that he should discuss that with his mother. Even if you brought it up to her before hand, it is still kind of trapping her into a situation where she needs to do one on one time and can be viewed as guilting or manipulative. You talk for yourself in the singular....not as combined parents.
This situation happens a lot here...Kids want to have a sleep over on the ex's weekend. I tell them to discuss it with her, as it isn't my choice or decision to make.
The argument is just a symptom of the problem my friend.
The superior man is an excellent book Faith.....A lot of couples read it together actually. Some of it does have to be taken with a grain of salt though LOL
