What you said about hearing the message rather than thinking about the response is a really good philosophy. I too often am planning what I'm going to say that I only get the message a but later when I've caused more upset by responding to my angst rather than what was said.
So how wobbly was the crow pose?
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress