Mozza (7) + Links to success stories

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I wouldn't mindread into the social media post. That only hurts your detachment. It's a little different than if she had told you about the book face-to-face. Bottom line is, detaching and pulling back is your best bet. and it's just my opinion, but since she didn't dkrectly tell you about the book, I find a hard way for you to easily bring it up without pursuing. Maybe an opportunity will present itself, but Mozza, do NOT spend hours of your time thinking of how that might happen! I can't tell you how many hours I spent between August and November having imaginary conversations with WAW in my head, in which I would tell her about my changes (that I was supposedly making for me, lol), ideas for activities with her, etc. and she was always excited and receptive in my mind. Those imaginary convos helped suffocate my detachment, and NONE of them ever happened.

Just enjoy the book because YOU enjoy it. Don't mindread anything from the book or her social media post. Then save your time and energy, put the book down, and stow away your thoughts about the book for another day, when you could talk about it with WAW... IF it ever comes up, which it might not! Obsessing about how this book could help you with WAW has a 2% chance of helping your sitch due to love languages being met, or whatever, and a 100% chance of prolonging your attachment and therefore your suffering. I believe you have a similar fear as I had, that one of your marital failures was not paying attention to her, not sharing intimate conversation or affection, etc, and that if you don't fulfill those failures now, she will not see any difference. Eventually, yes, she will need to see at least glimmers of your changes. But her A with OM needs to in its course first. You are locked in the friendzone/coparent-zone at least until then