Strong EA after 2 years of marriage. Need advice.

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An open marriage is three people, and you tolerating it. Obviously 95%+ will SAY they won't put up with this,,with their words, but their ACTIONS say otherwise.

You need to think long and hard about this, because I assure you, she IS testing you!


Starsky

OK I understand.

So they aren't physical. I told her I am not tolerating what is going on and I won't tolerate OM and that she crossed the line.
Her response was that our marriage doesn't exist anyway. I told her for me it does, but I won't be in her way. With or without OM she doesn't want the marriage anymore.
I did not tell her to quit the relationship but that I cannot life with this situation and rather risk getting thrown out of the country (my greencard renewal is due soon) than putting up with this.
And since I said it I will have to do it. There is no way back. But I don't know if that was a smart move. I will lose a lot of time on saving the M. We will see how this is going to play out for me. Oh Jesus...help me

Thanks you so much Starsky for your help!