Baby Steps is all you can do. If your shaking though go find somewhere you can get some peace. any interaction now is likely to be pretty hostile.

I've been where you are loads of times and the looking at her phone isnt going to do you any good unless you want a very combative situation.

think about it what is the best that can happen from looking?

thought about it?





Got anything good yet?


nope - nothing good will come from it. seriously been there so often (even in the last week) and nothing good comes from it.

On the plus side you didnt pretend so its all in the open rather than hidden undercurrent.


Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress