Bdub, good luck with the dissolution. And hope that calmer heads prevail. You are doing the right thing by just negotiating out side of court. It may feel like crazy stress, but compared to the normal process you are getting a reprieve.
Me: 35 Her: 33 D : 16 S : 9 Together: 14 years Married: 12 She left 4/14/2014 Separated: 5/25/2014 OM Confirmed 7/2014 She filed 8/7/2014 I Filed 10/21/2014 Divorce final 2/12/2015