A couple of weeks ago I read a post from someone who was post-D and she said that your first place post divorce is typically temporary and you shouldn't put a lot of investment into it.
I was wondering if there is some virtue to not setting down roots right away once you're free to do so.
I didn't mean to imply that I was going to rush out next week and put an offer down on the house I've got my eye on. That is absolutely out of the question.
Part of the faith part of this exercise is leaving the door open to the possibility the house could still be on the market at the time that I'm ready to buy it. But the "helping faith along" part is the part where I take the steps necessary to be ready in case it is.
My priority for the next several weeks is to actually get divorced, following what several smart posters here recommended, particularly WRT finding a great attorney, which is a little harder than I expected.
Also, if I wanted to get divorced based on the one-year separation, I've still got three months to wait, so in order to divorce I'll either have to go through the legal separation and then turn it into a divorce, or I'll have to convince STBX to confess to adultery so I can get an immediate divorce.
We're going to have to have another meeting. Won't that be fun?
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
